It has been a poignant week, which might have been anticipated if I had time to be reflective. The emotional rollercoaster began with the fate-echoing dream described below. That afternoon after my dream, tarabut Hussein and myself took off from school early and followed our mother and sisters up an undiscovered path for our first Muessum (town festival). The path veered up the side of a small mountain and cut through wheat fields, terminating at a small rock and adobe structure overlooking the towns and valleys below. Probably 50 or 60 women and children sat together squeezed under the small shaded patio and a thick line of men rumbled along the side wall of the shack. To the left, in a makeshift kitchen hugging the wheat edging the house, were a few men and women cooks working with huge metal pots and deep heavy buckets of food. A plastic woven rug was unfurled behind the house in the hot sun and my instructor, Ali, invited me to sit. For a moment it was just the two of us, but soon the rest of tarabut Hussein joined the rug, followed by the women of our family and some of the local children. Ali quickly but discretely extricated himself. I stayed until the rug was swarming with about twenty women. Ali asked me if I wanted to go sit with the men near the kitchen and when I got up, he explained that in Morocco it is not acceptable for men to sit with women unless they are family. We made our way to men’s section along the side of the building and I greeted each of the men and boys all the way down the line as I had been taught. They were excited to see me there and started a barrage of questioning before I was even able to seat myself on the ground. Two men asked the majority of questions, but they spoke quickly, overlapped each other, and were supplemented by other curious spectators making up the large crowd which had gathered around. I struggled to interpret each question and respond coherently in the target language for what seemed an eternity. Probably ten minutes in, my brain collapsed from shear exhaustion. My first and only experience like this; I had the distinct sensation that my brain just stopped; exactly like a muscle giving out when you try to do that last impossible pull up. For maybe a solid minute, I could only hear the jabbering men surrounding me as noise. There was no willing myself to think, and when I did snap back, I was exhausted. The men mostly wanted to know about if I was married, if my wife was Moroccan or American, and what types of animals and food we had in the States. I obliged them with the answers I could form, and entertained them with my low functioning language ability. Eventually I insisted that we leave, but we were stopped while walking away and told that if we didn’t stay and eat couscous, it would be “hashuma” (really shameful). Again we went back to the unfurled plastic rug, which had been cleared of its visitors and replaced with a giant disc of couscous. We circled the 3ft diameter feast and ate with our hands. When we fulfilled our couscous consumption quota, my host-sister rinsed our hands by pouring water from an old soda bottle which beaded off the grease layer with ease, and we headed back along the trail to town.
He next day tarabut Hussein spent the whole day preparing for a language test which assesses your language ability for which there is a minimum requirement of “Novice-High” level language proficiency in order to proceed in Morocco. While we all felt fairly confident we were performing at this level or above, needless to say, this was a stressful day. Even more stressful was the following day when we had to wake up early, walk 5km to the next town, take the language test, and prepare all our baggage to be sent to our final sights. Luckily, we were able to get our tests out of the way pretty early and we all passed! Our host-families back home, who all knew about the test, greeted us as victors when we arrived back home having passed the exam. Though they celebrated with shouts of “You know how to speak Tashlite very good!“, I’m not so sure they were as convinced of our language abilities as the testers were.
The following day, we celebrated by watching “Princess Bride”, which Hind was wise enough to have brought with her. The morning was stiflingly hot, and in the afternoon on the walk back home, we witnessed a battle of two weather systems, the eerie result of which, was a stagnant, murky, hot air dotted with unusual thrusting tunnels of wind. When we got home, more oddity ensued. Sitting at home at the tea table, we were surprised by an unknown visitor in a red and gold track suit. Following her were two more strangers. These turned out to be our two host-sisters (Halima and Habiba) who live in Rabat, and Habiba’s husband, who is simply called Hajj because he has made the pilgrimage to Mecca. Although we had been given no inkling that these guests were coming, it was clear that they were very important and adored by the family. Within moments of their arrival, a special area had been created on the floor with shaggy rugs and pillows. A table was placed in the middle and covered with as much food as there was room to fit. The sisters brought with them bags of expensive meats, bread, vegetables, and hard to find fruit, and soon our host-mother and all the sisters were hard at work preparing tea, coffee, hot milk, rice, bread, and tagine. Meanwhile they munched on fruit and chatted, not forgetting to include us and reiterating that it had been a long, hot day. While we waited for dinner we heard a howl in the distance which could have been mistaken for a far off wind tunnel. A trip to the roof, however, informed us that in fact the Fadma,s host-grandmother had died. People from all over town could be see trekking from various parts of the village to be with the family and mourn. That night we slept in our room alone as usual, all the guests and other family members slept together in the open area outside our room where the welcome reception had been created. In the morning all were up even earlier than usual to start the harvesting of wheat which began the day before. Meanwhile, Tarabut Hussein had a farewell party to execute. By 8:30, we were in our souk town buying the necessary party needs including the 10 liters of fruit juice we had special ordered from our favorite But’hanut. Bags full of party favors, we flagged down one of the taxi men who tried to put us in a taxi whose driver was currently working under the hood. He assured us that it worked fine, but when we got in and observed the taxi man trying to push us into the street with a blind corner, hoping to jump start it in the road, we quickly got out and demanded another cab. The second cab was acquired soon after and with the exception of some of the road being visible through a small whole in the floor, this taxi was A-okay.
The next day (the day of the party), we went to work preparing. Before long we had cleaned the house and created two comfortable and attractive venues. This is of course because we had been informed the previous day that nobody would come to our party unless we separated the men and women. Naturally, the women’s room was huge compared to the men’s both because not many men were expected and because women need room for dancing. Children and teens boys are able to join either room and often bounce back and forth so they can feel manly but also have a good time. The next step was to create graphic health posters which we hung up around the party to impart some last bits of advice to our village. Deemed the most artistically apt, I was put in charge of sketching out the four posters. As I created my masterpieces, I was rudely interrupted by some ruckus in the kitchen followed by the gut wrenching smell of gas. Ironically, we had just been given our gas tank usage safety class the day before, and now we were living one of the major problems. Our cook somehow made the propane tank leak inside the house while she tried to affix the proper accoutrement. Then our LCF brought the leaking tank outside where our cook, our landlord, and her two small children continued to handle the tank as well as a knife which they were using to try to stop the leak. Clearly, as health volunteers, we were disappointed and demanded that the tank be removed from the area and taken back to the store where it was purchased. Meanwhile we suggested that the our landlord and cook not turn on or off lights and not use the stoves or lighters until the gas dissipated from the building. At this point, we were very concerned about the success of the party. Not only was the town suffering from a recent death, but now our party site was filled with flammable awfulness. Luckily, when we got back, the gas was mostly gone, and against our suggestions, our cook had prepared us tea. Also, we found out that the mourning family had given us their blessing to proceed with the party and we were able to finish the posters with full color and even some Arabic text! Soon we had a beautiful assortment of dishes overflowing with dates, various nuts, cookies, real cheese, bread, olives, fruit, and “kashir” (highly processed meat between a hot dog and spam). Once people started arriving, I resigned to the men’s room where we were waited on by the women. This was awkward, but to be fair, I was forced to stay in the small none-dancing room for the whole party so I guess it evens out. Through the wall I could hear the party growing in size. Over the loud music thumping through the wall, women could be heard singing, dancing and stomping out beats with any available means. In total about 40 women came to the party which lasted for hours. In contrast, there were 3 men besides my LCF and myself. This included, the Mqddam (a local official), and two local teachers, all of whom are great and fun. We talked a lot about language and Islam often in English but languages became flexible on occasion. Despite a rocky start, this was a hell of a party! Now we have to go home, finish packing, and spend our last night with our host-families, before heading to PC Swear In.